I'll meet you at a different Bar
Standing on tiptoes can you reach it with your finger tips? Or is it a couple of metres above you? Can you even see where you've set it, or is it too far away?
How high have you set the bar for yourself?
I don't know about you, but it doesn't feel that fun or motivating to set the bar where I'm never going to be able to reach it. Yes there is being ambitious and striving for more and setting new goals to challenge ourselves, but living every day with a bar that you can't reach. Is that a great life? Is that what you want for yourself, would you want that for others, for your kids?
"It's because I'm a perfectionist".
I hear this a lot,
"How's that working out for you?"
"Not so great, it's exhausting, I can't ever really succeed, I beat myself up for not doing enough".
Striving for perfection, striving to reach that unreachable bar, it's a bugger. It's like playing a game where you can never win, and it's also a game where you have created many of the rules.
So many of us are playing this game. Striving to be perfect, logically we know it doesn't make sense and yet we still do it, and we start to expect these standards of others, of our loved ones.
Perfection is an impossible goal. There’s always something we could be better at. Fail to realise this and our drive to be perfect will always rule our life – probably at a cost to relationships, our creativity and our happiness.
I've decided to back away from it. No I'm not backing away, I've dismantled the bar of trying to be perfect, it's not working for me anymore! Instead I'll just keep exploring, dreaming, failing, acting and making it up as I go along....that's where the fun is!
Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you do, and fix it along the way...